well she doesnt have cerivical cancer, but they told her she has HPV, how she got it i dno, long story with dad and my mom. anyways, its in moderate stage right now, which is close to cancer. They also found a cyts on her ovary, and guess what, it looks cancerous, so now, they think she has ovarian cancer. She goes in on April 26 for a partial hysterectomy and she cant work for 6weeks. How we are going to get by i dno, all she gets is a disability check and if you get those you know you cant get by on just that so she does odds and ends jobs, like cleaning peoples houses. now we have just the check. also bad news with that once she is able to work again, Its my turn for surgery. Dad said he would try to help out. We have food stamps so we will have food. it just sucks casue i cant help out. But my dad is a great man and will help us through it. Anyone here had a hysterectomy cause i want to know how you feel and what i can do to help my mom be more comfortable through out this next 2 months.

Ahhhhhhhh sweetie, I'm here for you, you know that. :grouphug:

Well, she is going to be down for about 6 weeks, no lifting. She will feel better after the first couple of weeks...

I hope everything goes very smoothly for her.
And I hope the ovarian cyst is just a cyst...it is possible.
AndI hope, that if it is cancer that it has stayed in the ovary because then the statistic for cure are very good.

Hang in Amanda...it will be alright.

Amanda hon, I am so, so sorry, and will keep your entire family, and your mom in my thoughts and prayers. If there is anything that I can do, ANYTHING...wish I lived closer, I could make you some meals, something;( I think you and your family has been through way more than anyone should have to, and it breaks my heart. Just know, someway, you will all get by...you WILL!! Loves to you hon, and my mom had a hysterectomy, and she was down for about 6 weeks. My mom pretty much camped out on the couch and I helped to take care of her best I could. It is important that she have someone around to help her out the first couple of weeks.

xxoo

Thanks for the update. I'll keep both of you in my prayers. Hopefully the hysterctomy will take care of your mother's problem and 6 weeks recovery is the norm. Hang in there. :grouphug:

I am so sorry to read about your mom your family has just had to much happening.
I to wish I could do something to help you, but I live in NY.
I had a hysterectomy felt so crappy before that I actually felt great afterward.
The first week or so is the worst, just tell your mom not to over do.
I actually was out ice skating 2 weeks after surgery (doctor didn't know that).
NO lifting is really the most important thing for her, can cause adhesions which can cause more pain and possibly more surgery.
If there's anything I can do please don't hesitate to just ask sweetie!!

{{{HUGS}}}

I haven't but many friends who have had. My first reaction with the questionable testings, is why only a partial hysterectomy. I would go for a full one. My sister had HPV and even though it isn't cancer it's nothing to let go. I would have the full surgery.

Each person heals differently. Are they doing a laproscopic surgery or the regular type of incision. Only a few doctors do the laproscopic type but you heal faster.

hey Amanda! I'm keeping you and your family on my prayers
my mom had an hysterectomy like 4 years ago, I remember the doctor telling her not to lift anything heavy and rest for almost 2 months, you just need to help her and be there for her!
I hope you are doing good! love u!

Yea that was my question too. I dno why just have, they said the cyst is the size of a golf ball and she has endometrious sorry dno how to spell it. But more then likey it will be fully, he just doesnt want her to have to start to take hormones all the time.

Damn girl...your family is being put through the ringer. Your father is in Iraq isn't he? My ex husband used to be in the Navy and while he was overseas one time I was getting stalked. Because of the situation I went to the base (I lived off base) and they have special social workers to help families during situations like this. In the Navy they are referred to as an Ombudsman. If your family hooks up with the equivalent of whichever branch of the service your Dad is in they can offer any support services they have available. I'll do some research myself online and see what I can find out. I'll post anything I can find here.

This looks promising if your father is Army or Army National Guard:

http://www.aerhq.org/

Here is more from the Arkansas National Guard's website.

Family Assistant Centers

For referrals, questions or concerns please contact the Family Assistant Center (FAC) closest to your home. These centers are here to act as a resource to family members. The centers are readily available to family members, regardless of component. The FACs provide services such as: help with Legal Matters, Financial Assistance, Information and Referral, Local and National Emergencies, Coordination with rear detachments of deployments, Problem Solving, Crisis Resolution and Rumor Control.

Below is a list of Family Assistant Centers and contact information for them.



-Camden-
1020 Gibson Ave SE
Camden, AR 71701

Armory Phone: 870-836-2182



-Hazen-
1523 Hwy Box 413
Hazen, AR 72064

Phone: 501-212-7801
Armory Phone: 501-255-4478



-Harrison-
2810 Airport Rd.
Harrison, AR 72601

Phone: 501-212-7798
Armory Phone: 870-741-8636



-Prescott-
Phone: 501-551-3749
Armory Phone: 479-394-4303



-Newport-
2000 Fairgrounds Rd
Newport, AR 72112

Phone: 870-512-8568
Armory Phone: 870-523-2933



-Russellville-
217 Airport Rd.
Russellville, AR 72801

Phone: 501-212-4102
Armory Phone: 479-968-4088



-Springdale-
600 West Sunset
Springdale, AR 72764

Phone: 501-212-7320
Armory Phone: 479-619-8497



-Pine Bluff-
707 Thomas Riggins Dr.
Pine Bluff, AR 71601

Phone: 501-212-7541
Armory Phone: 870-830-7271



-State Office-
Bldg 6402
Box 964
North Little Rock, AR 72199

Phone: 501-212-4102
Armory Phone: 800-446-4645

http://www.arguard.org/Family/fac.htm

Amanda, I surely know the feeling of helplessness as my mom has been through many travails recently and I can't afford to even go see and comfort her. I will pray for your mom and that the hysterectomy takes care of the problem. I believe the lord will protect you and allow no harm to come to you.

Prayers for your mom and your whole family. :grouphug:

I'm so sorry to hear this Amanda. Your whole family is in my thoughts and prayers.

If the test is not cancer. The hormones aren't bad unless you have a cancer that feeds on estrogen. Since this isn't cancer, that may not be a problem. My friends breast cancer was an estrogen feeder. She couldn't take the hormones after her hysterectomy for a benign tumor in her uterus a year later. Consequently, major hot flashes. She was young. That was 30 years ago and she is doing fine.

My OB/GYN is a very renown specialist and I asked him about the estrogen scare a few years ago. He is a researcher himself and said that the tests were totally bogus. I have full confidence in him. I've been with him for 20 years and half of the nurses at Memorial of Long Beach Hospital go to him. That says a lot about a doctor because nurses know the real doctor and the real man.

She needs to trust what her body is saying to her. Keep us updated.

gogo

thanks for all the prayers and support guys. Im scared of what im going to have to do, i ahve never takin care of someone, and i just dont want to get stressed out, i know i will, and believe me bad time to do that since moms surgery takes place the day before finals.

thanks for the numbers and stuff, we know if we can do it alone they will help me but mom im not sure about since dad and her are divorced. But we are doing fundraisers sometime soon, selling candles and sittin change jars up...oh and we are contacting stations to help get fundraisers up.

amanda...because of your health issues, the family services should be able to help you care for your mother...even if they end up having to wrangle up some volunteers. I'm pretty sure if something impacts you directly they will offer you help in doing the things you need to do, even if your Mom benefits from it. They might even be able to offer some financial assistance as well. It's definitely worth a shot.

very true it never hurts to ask does it.

Thinking about you and your Mom, Amanda. I'm sure that you will do fine, looking after your Mom. I would call and see if you can't get some help though. You might be surprised at just how fast your Mom will recover. I'm sure that once the first week or so is over, she will be doing fine.

Being in Canada, I don't know what services are open to you but give them a call and we will all be praying that you get all the help you need.