i have recently started talking to a girl that is 18 yrs. younger than me.. i am 44, she is 26.. i have kind of mixed feelings about this, and wondered if any of you had any input on this.. just looking for some feedback..

I think age ain't nothing but a number for older men/younger women, or vice versa. The important thing is where you both are in terms of maturity, interests, values and what you want out of life - especially in terms of family. I would say, though, listen to yourself if concerns come up. If your instincts start to tell you it's not working, it probably isn't - but that's true if you are older, younger or the same age.

Does she love Elliott?????????????????????

Kidding aside, if you have a lot in common, go for it. Age is a state of mind

I agree. Me personally, I can't see myself with someone in their 30's right now because my mind set isn't there yet (I'm 22 and yes, I can admit that) but my dad was dating a 25 year old at 43 so to each his own.

thanx guys for the comments.. i feel the same way. if we get along and care for each other it shouldn't matter.. i guess i just question why a pretty girl like her would want with an older guy like me.. just makes me wonder i guess..

If you are truly in love with one another, I say go for it! Life is not long enough to be without someone who loves you as much as you love them.

To each his own. But for me personally, I can't see myself with somebody 20 years older than me, I'm best around people my own age.

However I am 17, and the thought of dating 37-year-old is just nasty :eww:

I think it's just a personal thing. I wouldn't date anyone 20 years older than me, simply because they would be in another place in their life (I'm still in school; he'd already have a career).
However, there is a girl in one of my classes who is about 28, and she is dating a man who is 45 and seems perfectly happy... I guess it just depends on the person!

i know it creeps you teenage girls out, but i think a 26 yr. old is a little more mature, and maybe she sees in me the maturity that guys her age don't have.. i havent been talking to her long and she is already saying she is in love with me, which worries me somewhat.. she says she falls easy, but i don't know.. i'm going into this with my eyes open, but im afraid of getting hurt also.. oh well, such is life, lol...

It really depends on the person though. For example, if Phil Joel didn't have a beautiful wife and two cute little kids, I'd marry him...even though he's almost 35. But that ain't happenin' so I gotta find an angel man somewhere else :rotfl:

Oh I completely think it depends on the person. Absolutely no doubt about that. Like I said, I wouldn't be for it (at least not now; maybe in a few years when I'm done with school), but I know there are people my age who would be absolutely fine with a relationship like that (probably more mature people :P)

Just trust your instinct and take it slow. :)

lol.. well, johnny depp, tom cruise and brad pitt are my age.. and i'm sure their alot of younger girls that would kill to date them, lol.. not sayin that i'm as good looking or as rich as they are, hahaha.. i feel like Michael Douglas with Katherine zeta jones, lol.. have to say, this is an experience i'm looking forward to.. should be interesting. most people say i look ten years younger than i am, so maybe we won't look too awkward together..

I'm all for dating older guys. I used to prefer it in high school, now I prefer dating older guys but not too much older. Someone in there late 20's is good to me (I'm 19)and maybe early early 30's. Because for the most part he as a guy is wanting to maybe start settling down. I can't handle guys my own age because all they wanna do is party. Not my scene.

I LOVE the younger male set myself!! As long as everyone of them are ADULTS!! (that make good choices!) Male or female, GO FOR IT!!

From what I have observed, most people go through major changes between the ages of 20 and 30. Probably more so than between any other group of 10 years. I have found that men are more mature and settled after the age of 30 and are usually more stable and reliable. Most women are at that point around 25 or 26. Of course there are exceptions in many cases, but looking back, I can apply it in most of my experiences. Unfortunately, I fell into that scenario and was divorced by 29. The ironic thing is that given the chance to go back and do it over again, I probably would have married the same guy at the same time! Love is a funny thing!

Nothing is a guaranty but you have to take a chance on LOVE - it is the greatest gift!

I have always said, "love is love". Follow your heart and it will eventually lead you to the right person. I always forget who said this, but "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all". Give it a chance. See where it goes.

thanx everyone! i appreciate you making me feel better about this.. i'm gonna give it a chance and see where it goes.. the only thing is she has a 2 yr. old, and i really don't know if i can raise another child.. guess we'll see where my heart leads me.. thanx again!

Good luck mate! :1word:

I agree with what many people have said. It is dependent on the individual as to whether a relationship will be successful or not. In my case, I prefer older than me because they are more experienced and mature.

well, heres an update.. this girl was a joke, lol.. she wouldnt know how to treat a guy if someone printed insructions on her forehead.. guess you can tell i'm upset.. she went from being in love with me, to confused to being in love with me again, to not wantin a relationship.. all in the matter of a couple weeks.. needless to say, i felt like a yo yo.. think this has taught me a very good lesson.. geeezzzzzzz, whats wrong with a girl like this!!?? you can't jus say your in love with someone and then act the way she did.. whats wrong with people??grrrrrrrrrrrrr..

Possibly a good rule of thumb would be to never "get involved with anyone that you could have a child that age." Just sayin.

Sorry, too quick to judge w/out knowing all.

IMO, She sounds quite immature... Too immature for a real serious relationship.

Sorry things didn't work out. :console:

thanx..yep, i've learned some lessons i guess you could say..it's so funny..i met her on myspace and after all this happened i deleted her from my friends list.. well, jus last night she texted me and asked "Why did you delete me"? I'm thinkin to myself, get a clue.. she is really a case for study.. obviously she has some issues.. i'm amazed sometimes either how ignorant or heartless people can be..

All in all, issues or no issues, she may just be struggling with her true feelings. Every woman once in her life encounters uncertainty with her innermost feelings, especially as she's still young. There's always going to be growing room, so maybe you could at least allow her to stay a friend, without completely cutting her off. Don't sever that emotional tie too much. Friendship is ALWAYS needed and good to have around!
Good luck to your ventures etrainron!